As parents we want our kids to grow up to be independent, healthy, happy, and financially secure adults. Getting them there takes a lot of hard work.\u00a0 But knowing what your goals are can help.\u00a0 For example, is it one of your goals that your kids be responsible for making sure they remember to leave the house prepared? If it is, then bailing them out every time they forget is not going to get them there.<\/p>\n
If you rescue your child too often, she will come to rely on you and not on herself.\u00a0 You need to help her build confidence that she can<\/em> do it on her own.\u00a0 She’s going to need your guidance.<\/p>\n She forgets her homework?\u00a0 Let her turn it in late even if it means a few points are taken off. The key is to help her strategize ways to be successful at turning in future assignments.\u00a0 Maybe a check-off sheet near her toothbrush gives her an opportunity to make sure her work is placed in her backpack before she goes to bed.<\/p>\n Forgot her lunch?\u00a0 She’s not going to starve.\u00a0 Friends are amazing at sharing their tasty morsels…and not so tasty ones! But again, strategize ways that lunch won’t be forgotten in the future.<\/p>\n Left her fancy slippers at home while on a sleepover?\u00a0 You get the idea.\u00a0 But when she does remember on her own, let her know how proud you are of her.\u00a0 Praise is an amazing motivator.<\/p>\n It is true that it can be very hard to ignore the feeling that you are letting your child down by not coming to her rescue.\u00a0 And there are a myriad scenarios we can play in our head in order to rationalize why we’re taking time off from work to drop off the lunch.\u00a0 But the bottom line is, if you rescue now, you’ll probably be doing it for a while.<\/p>\n Of course, there will always be times when it is important that you step in and help.\u00a0 We don’t want to be so rigid in our ways that being human is no longer accepted.\u00a0 Leaving at home the report that goes along with the unbelievable Mayan Indian project that she worked so hard on is a definite stop-what -you’re-doing-and-get-that-report-over-there<\/em> moment.\u00a0<\/p>\n And for those times where where you’re just not sure, try having your child \u201cpay\u201d you for the time it took out of your day to get her the forgotten item.\u00a0 It could be in gas money or help in putting the groceries away or whatever other creative thing you come up with.\u00a0 This helps underscore to your child that your time is valuable.<\/p>\n The Money Connection: 40% of parents who give their kids allowance say their kids run out of money before the next allowance cycle.\u00a0 And most of these parents succumb and give their kids additional money.\u00a0 Can you see why these kids run out of money?\u00a0 Maybe it’s because they know that they can get more.\u00a0 And if you’re bailing them out now, at what point do you decide to stop?\u00a0 When they’re 18? 25? 40?<\/p>\n The lesson we need to be teaching to our kids is that when the money is gone, it’s gone. \u00a0This lesson is important because it forces kids to live within their means.\u00a0 And that’s all about making different spending choices the next time around.\u00a0 Once the ground rules have been set and you’ve proven you can stick to them, it’s actually a beautiful thing to watch your child take a moment to reflect on whether or not buying that lip gloss (when you already have a lot at home) is a smart choice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" As parents we want our kids to grow up to be independent, healthy, happy, and financially secure adults. Getting them there takes a lot of hard work.\u00a0 But knowing what your goals are can help.\u00a0 For example, is it one of your goals that your kids be responsible for making sure they remember to leave the house prepared? If it is, then bailing them out every time they forget is not going to get them there. If you rescue your…<\/p>\n